Two of my dearest friends suffer from anxiety at a level I probably could not handle. They are friends of mine who are in “12 step programs.” Both of them feel that they cant go and express themselves at meetings. They correctly state that many of the people in the programs would criticize them, negate them, or just plain tell them that they are “not working the program,” because they are struggling. I have experienced it also, but I seem to not care about what others say as much about my journey as most.
“Someone’s always trying to tell them, Something they already know.” What I am learning is that many people seem to have the right answer for how others “should,” get better. The advice is usually that something is “wrong,” with my friends. What I find amazing is that people who are in the rooms of AA, (because they didnt know how to live their lives,) are telling others how to live their lives.
My dear friend, the Painter, and I used to sit out in front off our favorite coffee shop and pontificate and wax philosophical every Wednesday night after our AA meeting. What we decided was the “spiritual,” axiom we were going to try and live by was “I don’t know.” In response to any questions we could think of, for other people’s live, we didn’t have the answer. It is not that we can’t think, because we think we can!!! 🙂
My mind, my highly educated mind, wants to figure it out. It wants to understand and heal the world, with one fell brush of my philosophical stroke! Stop the suffering we are enduring as individuals and collectively also. Damn, isn’t that my job? I think at some level it is, but I have to remember the axiom we arrived at in the last paragraph when we were solving the problems of the world.
“How bold one gets when one is sure of being loved.” Michael McDonald said it best. “I think passing love around, is all we were born to do.” I was reading my friend Lori Lara’s post this morning,* and then found the Freud quote and voila, synchronicity!!
I love you Rhonda, Pam, Steve, Renee and Jim!
All quotes except (1) and (2) from Warren Zevon’s “Mohammeds Radio” (1) Sigmund Freud (2)Doobie Brothers ” Here to Love You.”