” Everybody’s restless and they’ve got no place to go…”

pornTwo of my dearest friends suffer from anxiety at a level I probably could not handle. They are friends of mine who are in “12 step programs.”  Both of them feel that they cant go and express themselves at meetings.  They correctly state that many of the people in the programs would criticize them, negate them, or just plain tell them that they are “not working the program,” because they are struggling.  I have experienced it also, but I seem to not care about what others say as much about my journey as most.

sable-blanc-florida-robert-deschenes“Someone’s always trying to tell them,  Something they already know.”  What I am learning is that many people seem to have the right answer for how others “should,” get better.  The advice is usually that something is “wrong,” with my friends.  What I find amazing is that people who are in the rooms of AA, (because they didnt know how to live their lives,) are telling others how to live their lives.

praising-mantisMy dear friend, the Painter, and I used to sit out in front off our favorite coffee shop and pontificate and wax philosophical every Wednesday night after our AA meeting.   What we decided was the “spiritual,” axiom we were going to try and live by was “I don’t know.”   In response to any questions we could think of, for other people’s live, we didn’t have the answer.  It is not that we can’t think, because we think we can!!! 🙂

My mind, my highly educated mind, wants to figure it out.  It wants to understand and heal the world, with one fell brush of my philosophical stroke!  Stop the suffering we are enduring as individuals and collectively also.  Damn, isn’t that my job?  I think at some level it is, but I have to remember the axiom we arrived at in the last paragraph when we were solving the problems of the world.

20131022-143123.jpg“How bold one gets when one is sure of being loved.” Michael McDonald said it best.  “I think passing love around, is all we were born to do.”  I was reading my friend Lori Lara’s post this morning,* and then found the Freud quote and voila, synchronicity!!

I love you Rhonda, Pam, Steve, Renee and Jim!

All quotes except (1) and (2) from Warren Zevon’s “Mohammeds Radio” (1) Sigmund Freud (2)Doobie Brothers ” Here to Love You.”

*http://lorilara.com/2014/04/26/11-easy-steps-to-making-your-teenage-daughter-depressed/

 

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2 thoughts on “” Everybody’s restless and they’ve got no place to go…”

  1. Awww, my friend. What an honor it is to be a tiny part of your process and “synchronicity”, as you so beautifully stated. Your friends are heavy on my mind. I know the anxiety beast well, and it is no fun. My compassion is in full swing for them.

    I find the best inspiration and healing from people who aren’t trying to “fix” me. It’s best when it happens in the midst of a normal part of a relationship. A loving witness, like you, is really all we need. Everything else lives inside us, just waiting to emerge when the time is right. The healing is there; we just need to wait for it and continue believing in it, even when it’s most painful.

    I’m sure your friends appreciate your support.

    XO…

  2. I read something wonderful the other night, in Anam Thubten’s No Self, No Problem. “However, there are no 12-step programs in transcendent wisdom. There is only the on step-program and that is to not associate with the ego.”

    It’s the ego that carries all the pain and suffering. The ego carries the stories that perpetuate the harm we do to ourselves long after the original event is over.

    I still love this quote:

    “Life on earth is a whole, yet it expresses itself in unique time-bound bodies, microscopic or visible, plant or animal, extinct or living. So there can be no one place to be. There can be no one way to be, no one way to practice, no one way to learn, no one way to love, no one way to grow or to heal, no one way to live, no one way to feel, no one thing to know or be known.”

    Jon Kabat-Zinn

    We are however we need to be at any moment. We will grow beyond the circumstances of our lives when we are ready, and not before. It’s as simple as that.

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