“…the wounding resulting from our collective failure to honor our needs for social-emotional bonds.” I One of the things that helped me learn to be able to be closer to people was a therapy process I started when I was about 2 years sober and continued to do for about 3 years.* The reason that it was so helpful is because it didnt deal with my problems in any cognitive way or by any introduction with any intrusive modality of healing. (I didnt have to take anything.) Our problems, collectively as well as individually, are not based on any sort of “mental problem.” Mental problems to me are cognitive based, are about processing information, mentally.
My problems have never been cognitive based. My problems and I truly believe most of us are similar in this way, are based on what Laura Kerr calls the lack of the social-emotional bond and what AA calls the “deep seated,… emotional conflicts that persist below the level of our consciousness….” They are manifested in my lack of ability to connect with people and are not anything that can be transformed through any sort of behaviorism or pharmacological intervention. They might be able to be arrested momentarily, but I dont see how they can be addressed by the methodologies offered by psychiatry or behavioral therapies where the true psychic change can’t take place sufficiently enough so that people can then seek out connection from people who are loving and supportive of others where they can truly be supported emotionally in their lives.
“Adverse childhood experiences are the number one health problems facing America today.” Until we address this question, it is like putting fingers in the dike. I try not to be declarative in much in life any longer, notice the use of the word try, but this area is one where I am convinced that we are not going to be making the world a better place for US if this situation is not addressed.
123 RV, SA, PA, RW, JW, PH
 Laura Kerr. Dissociation in Late Modern America: A Defense Against Soul? pg. 11  Id. pg. 10
Dr. Kerr states that it is the “medical model,” which is the thing that is silencing the trauma effects that I argue are the predominant reason for many of the “mental health,” problems in our culture. This issue is too huge for a blog. I have chosen to make this my life’s work. If you are interested, I would invite you to read Dr. Kerr’s “Dissociation in Late Modern America: A Defense Against Soul?”
*The name of the therapy is not important and if you really want to know what it, I will send you the information if you email me at email@example.com
A couple of posts to read if you are interested in different perspectives about the issue, as I am.