I am having a hard time with the term spirituality. If Ggod is a metaphor for all that is beyond intellectual, then how can I do anything or act in a way that is spiritual if I cant understand what that is? “Do you see the complete harmony between central dictatorship, fascism, political callousness, and the self-centeredness of the spiritual point of view?” When people say in AA meetings that they are growing spiritually, I think what does that mean? Where is that growth manifested? In their mediation capabilities? Their ability to be empathetic?
But the minute I think I have some corner on “spirituality,” I think what I am really saying is that I have some line on or ability that others might not have on emotional maturity!
What a joke. Just put an authority figure in front of me, or an angry father type and you will get to see my emotional maturity go right out the window if I am n0t centered EMOTIONALLY.
These deep seated emotional conflicts that persist below the level of my consciousness,  dont go away and probably will not. What I am getting by working through them as best I can is the lessening of the emotional charge around them.
Elizabeth Oldfield was saying that we should give the term spirituality a rest. What I interpreted that to mean was that we should not use it as some sort of shorthand, some sort of subliminal signal to others of my psychological and spiritual growth or maturity. I agree and here is why. Saying it as some sort of symbolic word manifesting a certain amount of development of the individual, creates the duality of the opposite of it. So if I dont act spiritually in the same way you do, then I am going to be seen as “less spiritual.”
I am working real hard in not using the words that have duality connected to them. I see my friends struggle because they live with those dualistic criteria for how they should live their lives. The problems with those terms is two fold. If you live up to them, righteousness can set in. If you cant, shadow behavior, i.e, shame based behavior takes over.
Elizabeth Oldfield Joseph Campbell  James Hillman  AA “12 steps and 12 traditions”