That has always been the case for me. When a person gets boring to me, then I stop imagining about them. No, I hate to say it, I really think I stop imagining how wonder full the relationship is first and then the person gets boring to me. That is sad. What is it that happens inside of me that precipitates this kind of thinking?
Maybe I can learn to know when things have run their course and it is time to move away from that relationship and move to the next level of growth. It is always so hard for me to do. I usually have it end up negative, i.e. end in a fight, “misunderstanding” etc. I am sad that I have the capability to just walk away from a relationship like I do.
This is not me espousing my opinion that we should only have relationships for fixed periods of time. One of the hardest things for me is not to have a family of origin to continue to reflect life off of and to use as some sort of constant bedrock or benchmark. They all live within an hour of me.
But don’t cry for me Argentina! My poor family suffers so, so much that I would not be taking care of me by being around them. It would be more of a constant chirping than I already have going on in my mind!
“I don’t think anything changes until ideas change.” We have stopped imagining that there is something positive about “struggles,” “dis-ease,” or the term that I hope to never use again, “mental illness.” I suffer from emotional conflicts that are deep down under my consciousness and they drive the whole show if they are left unresolved. It really is not about my brain, but it is about my mind. I know that there are those who are going to say that they are inseparable, but I am not convinced of that.
Why do we stop imagining and then relationships end? What is it?
“If you want to change the world, you have to change the metaphor” This is what I propose. We don’t have mental illnesses any longer. There is nothing wrong with my mental processes. I can still write a mean sentence and articulate a point verbally pretty darn well. Remember I am PG 13 here!
I think what I have is an emotional dis-ease. We keep saying that we have mental illnesses. What does that mean? That I don’t act normally? (sorry, been there done that) That there is something wrong with me mentally? What is it then?
Okay, okay. Enough
The relationships I have had in my life all ended negatively except my Dad’s and I and he died! Well, I guess I get to keep working on getting better at them then.
All quotes from James Hillman except  Joseph Campbell
All the flowers are from Carol at http://radiatingblossom.wordpress.com/2013/07/12/dahlia-center/
On the top of the post is Bruno,(so named by the Fanatic) the stubborn (according to Ajaytao) new birdie shaman who will appear in protective oversight of this blog occasionally along with J2(baby owl), Pointy boy, Baron(the wolf) and Dancing baby who are all pictured above. Do not mess with Bruno, cuz despite how he looks he is very forgiving. He wont give you permission though.